Moral Contradictions

Friday, September 15, 2006

The real attacks on marriage

Former Senator John Danforth explains how anti-homosexual marriage amendments, touted as protecting the institution of marriage, are simply red herrings:

"America's divorce rate is now over 50 percent, and marriage is under attack from a number of quarters: finances, promiscuity, alcohol and drugs, the pressures of work, cultural acceptance of divorce, et cetera...But it is incomprehensible that one of these threats is when someone else, whom we have never seen, in a place where we may have never been, has done something we don't like."

Maybe we should look at shore up marriage by taking steps to protect our own, instead of throwing stones and worrying about others.


  • Indeed. Otherwise known as "Focus on Your Own (Darn) Family."

    By Blogger David Weintraub, at Friday, September 15, 2006 4:09:00 PM  

  • Nathan,

    Thanks so very much for bringing this up. We cannot protect the sanctity of marriage until we are learning and teaching 'relationships of reconciliation'. Not all the laws, all the force, nor all of the 'agencies' in the world can protect marriage, the family, our homes, our communities, our very civilization until we are ready to whole-heartedly pursue relationships of reconciliation with our loved ones, our neighbors, our associates and our enemies. Jesus said "you will love, as I have loved you". And what is His love for us unless it is adoptive, redeeming, sustaining, enabling, agape, reconciling love? Do ya think Jesus loves any homosexuals? Do ya think He expects us to? I say, to both questions, yes. That pursuit of loving relationships of reconciliation MUST BE the most important pursuit of our existences. As He is reconciliation for us, so will we be, reconciliation for others.

    Sadly, at this point in human history, the very body of Christ (myself included) is too timid to declare to this dying world that our materialism, our pursuit of 'MORE!' and our abject REFUSAL to include the last, lost and least in our 'families' is symptomatic of the very disease that is destroying not only marriage but our civilization as well.

    We keep trying to push people OUT of our American Dream. Maybe we could put the Kingdom of Heaven first (NO, not a man-made, law-enforced 'kingdom') and pursue marriage only as a relationship of reconciliation instead of as an excuse to pursue more 'radical consumption'. THEN we could be protecting the sanctity of marriage and enacting the healing our world as well.

    To me, the laws against homosexual marriage are attempts to put lipstick on a pig. There are better things to do with pigs! Make new wineskins from them and fill them with new wine! (And, ummm, let's have a barbeque and invite ALL of our neighbors, gay and straight, and share Jesus with them.)

    sigh Thanks for letting me rant...

    By Blogger Tom, at Friday, September 15, 2006 10:10:00 PM  

  • With our divorce rate so high, it is obvious that this problem affects every single family in the nation. All of us are more than a little familiar with the tragedy of failed marriages. But, for anyone with any intelligence at all to suggest that a Constitutional ban on gay marriage will somehow strengthen 'normal' marriage is accomplishing nothing more than creating a political smoke screen used to hide an obvious civil rights issue.

    It is comparing apples to oranges. I have been married since May 2, 1970. We have beaten the odds several times over. Our marriage has been successful for the most part, but like any other marriage we have had our share of stresses that could have easily resulted in its destruction. I am not exactly certain what Tom's "relationships of reconciliation" means. But, if it means that my wife and I have had to grit our teeth and sometimes simply agree to disagree, then yes, I agree with him.

    But, relationship reconciliation has nothing to do with putting lipstick on 'pigs'. And, living in Louisiana where we bbq pork, I was a little shocked at the idea of making new wineskins out of these 'pigs' and then inviting them to a bbq to teach them Jesus. What would we bbq? Maybe a weiner roast would be more appropriate. No, I'm not serious.

    Gay bashing is the real issue that the Christian right has to face, as well as the Repulican Party. Mr Danforth has stated it as well as anyone that I have read or listened to in the article you linked to.

    "I believe that homosexuality is a matter of sexual orientation rather than preference," he writes. "Discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation is, in my view, comparable to discrimination on other civil rights grounds. It is wrong, and it should be prohibited by law."

    "I think that the only purpose served by the campaign for the amendment is the humiliation of gay Americans, advocated by the Christian right and eagerly supported by its suitors in the Republican Party," he adds. "In reality, it is gay bashing."

    Gay bashing can take many forms, such as occasional innocent remarks like "putting lipstick on pigs" and "Inviting them (pigs)to a bbq to teach them Jesus."

    As for commenting on the American Dream statement, I have already responded to Tom in your blogpost: "Morally Grounded Issues?"

    The one thing we have all agreed upon so far is that protecting our marriage is a personal responsibility and has little to do with Constitutional Amendments.

    Have a great weekend Nathan, and remember, all work and no play fogs the brain! Make sure you schedule some R&R with you wife. God Bless you both, Dusty

    By Blogger Dusty Bogard, at Saturday, September 16, 2006 3:15:00 PM  

  • Nathan,


    By Blogger Tim, at Wednesday, September 27, 2006 11:42:00 AM  

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